Mark and I have some very exciting news…we’re adopting….two children….from Ethiopia!
Are we nuts?! Perhaps. Naïve? Maybe a little. But we have a lot of love to give. There are a lot of children in Ethiopia that need love. It’s a good combination.
So I have a lot of ground to cover and I don’t want to make this post super long. I plan to blog throughout the entire process. I hope you’ll read. If you subscribe by using the button to the right, it will send you the post in an email each time I update so that you don’t have to constantly check back. It’s pretty cool, and you don’t get any other junk mail from it. Plus it makes me feel cool to have subscribers.
So where are we at in the process?
In mid-August we filled out a preliminary application and mailed it in:
We tried to get one with the whole family…but we didn’t have a photographer and getting three animals to sit still is not an easy task.
We were approved in early September, and they mailed us a mountain of paperwork.
This paperwork was the acceptance of the terms of the home study, what the agency does and what we’re responsible for, blah blah blah. We signed and signed and dated and dated and just sent that in earlier this week. After they receive it, we will go through even more paperwork and start the home study process. I will talk much more about this process in future entries- I can’t give away all my material in this first post! But the whole thing takes about two years from start to finish. Two years before we bring home our babies.
I have so much to tell you, but I will start by answering a few questions. Pretty much every time we tell someone we are adopting, these are the questions we get asked.
There’s a question I must answer before I can get to that question. The first question is really ‘Why International’? I can tell you that Mark and I both felt called to international adoption. We both just felt that it was right. I know that there are lots of kids that need homes in our own country. I know that it’s cheaper to adopt domestically. I know we’re not going the most practical route. I know. But we believe it’s the right route for us. There is undoubtedly a need in the U.S., and people that adopt domestically do a very noble thing and have my respect. But when we looked at the need in the U.S. compared to the need in other countries, it became clear where our kids would come from. But to be totally honest we didn’t put a lot of time into this first decision. That pull in our hearts was there from the beginning.
Once we decided to adopt internationally, we looked at lots of countries. I was surprised to learn that maybe only a dozen or so countries have strong adoption agreements with the U.S. Now, you can adopt from many more countries, but when you want a relatively stable adoption through a well know agency, there are really not that many to start from. Of the dozen or so, about half required you to be 30 years old. This is at the request of each individual country. Obviously, it was easy to cross those countries off our list. Of the remaining ones, we looked at costs, need, wait time, and the ages of the available children. Ethiopia was really the clear choice.
How old will the kids be, what gender will they be?
They will be young. Two or three and younger. Siblings. We are not specifying the gender. We have that option, but the more specific you get the longer you may have to wait. We will not find out their ages or gender until pretty far into the process – maybe 4 or 6 months before we bring them home.
Why are you adopting?
People don’t often ask this outright, but I know people wonder to themselves. We have dealt with infertility for the past year and a half. It’s nothing I am ashamed of or embarrassed to talk about, and if you have questions or are dealing with that yourselves I would love to talk to you about it. If you scroll down you will see many old posts that are password protected. I have been blogging for many months about that struggle – and it was a struggle at times – but due to the private nature of the subject and my tendency to over share, I opted to make those private. But if that’s something you’re interested in, let me know. I’m happy to let you read. We didn’t want adoption to feel like a second choice or a backup plan. Through lots of prayer and soul searching we are very excited about it and no longer feel that way. We do not want sympathy. This adoption is a very exciting and beautiful thing, not something we are going into with doubts. Don’t get me wrong, we are nervous and scared. But we couldn’t be more sure that this is what we are supposed to be doing. Infertility is a heartbreaking battle, especially when everybody you know is getting pregnant, but I think that sometimes it happens for a reason. A beautiful reason.
I could type pages and pages, but I’ll stop here for now. In the future I will talk more about the process, the emotions, racial issues, the costs, everything that we go through. If you have a question please ask it; nothing is really off limits. Oh and just so you know….I LOVE comments. I get really excited when someone comments. And probably no one will comment and now I will feel like a fool.
That’s all for now. Thanks for stopping by. We are so excited that you’re coming on this journey with us.