Adoption is a lot of friggin work.
I am learning that the home study is more than just interviews. It is also a lot of records. I knew we would need a lot of these for our dossier, but I didn’t realize we would need them for the home study itself. They will not even schedule interviews until you can turn the majority of the following things in, and your home study won’t be completed until you turn them all in.
Here’s the list. The ones in bold we already have and the others we should hopefully have mid-next week so that we can continue. Like everything else, what needs to be included with each thing is very specific.
Birth certificates (copy)
Marriage license (copy)
Letter from physician stating that each person in the household is in good physical/mental health
Letters from police stating your record or that you have no record
Letters from employers
1040 tax returns
Passport id page
Pet inoculation record
Then we send all that in with the autobiography. More on the autobiography in a future post.
Also during the process we have to have five reference letters (thank you people who are doing those), complete a short worksheet on issues to consider while raising a transracial child, and get a background check to make sure we’re not child abusers. The background check can take 4-6 weeks to process, and we can’t start it until we mail in our form with a copy of our social security card. Mark doesn’t know where his is, so he had to request a copy of his, which takes an extra 10 days….lots of waiting. We also had to order this $12 self-awareness tool thing that is a 32 page workbook on “Are you ready to parent a child of another race, culture, or ethnicity?” We have to work through that and discuss that with our social worker during the home study
Gathering all these documents is beginning to feel like a part time job. Why can’t it be this much work for everybody to have children??!!