Well, this is not going to be my most exciting post. But adoption is not always the most exciting thing. Over the past week Mark and I have been busy bees gathering all those papers. There have been trips to the vet, dozens of copies made, and multiple phone calls placed. Mark visited the doctor today and I go tomorrow. After I get the letter from my doctor, we will send in all the papers we have and move on to the next step. We are still missing a few, but that’s not a huge deal. They just want most of them to get started and then you can gather the others over the next several weeks. One thing we’ve had trouble with is the police letter. Mark called the local station and they directed him to headquarters. So he calls headquarters and they direct him back to the local station. He tells them what happened and they then say that they can provide a letter, but that it won’t be on their letterhead (a requirement). They say it will get put on their letterhead once it gets notarized, which didn’t make sense to us…if we’re missing something, let us know! So we’re going to send in the papers without that piece and hope to talk to someone more competent in the future.
One of the big parts of this current step is our autobiographies. Mark and I both had to write 2-4 pages about ourselves. Obviously I like to write, but I need some creative freedom people. Below is the outline that we have to use for our autobiographies, and we have to follow it pretty closely. They’re really stifling me here.
The good news is that getting all these papers together is a pretty significant step that we are getting closer and closer to checking off. There are so many things out of our control. We agreed that anything that IS within our control will get done very quickly, and I think we’ve done a pretty good job so far. Except that I probably just jinxed it. Anyway, here is the autobiography: (PS I apologize for the horrible formatting. Wordpress is apparently not very outline-friendly)
1. BACKGROUND/PERSONAL INFORMATION ON EACH ADOPTIVE PARENT
a. Full Name at Birth, Date of Birth, Place of Birth
b. Social Security Number
c. Height, Weight, and Ethnicity
d. Parents’ Names
e. Elaborate about the Following:
i. Information about parents, their jobs, how you saw your relationship with your parents, brief info about their marriage; information about siblings, their ages, their marital status and status of children, and where they live.
ii. Your role in your family or origin, home life while growing up; be sure to give an assessment of and feelings toward your own upbringing and family relationships
iii. Religious background (brief)
a. Notable High School experiences
b. Name/Location of High School, Date of Diploma
c. Higher Education, i.e. Degrees, Majors, Dates of Graduation.
3. EMPLOYMENT HISTORY/ WORK EXPERIENCE
a. Summarize work experience for the past ten years.
b. State Current Employment, Name of Company, Company Address, Phone Number, Title, Income, Length of time
4. MARITAL/ FAMILY INFORMATION
a. Brief info about previous marriages, divorces (if divorced, please include reason marriage terminated and steps taken to maintain marriage) and children.
b. If married currently, describe how you met your spouse, what attracted you to them, your relationship and home lifestyle now. Do you have any children from this marriage? If so, give names, ages, and general impression of their personalities, their temperament. What is their attitude toward the proposed placement? If any adopted children, please give background information about them also.
c. Strengths, resources of the home that contribute to stability and satisfaction for its members. Briefly tell how you cope with problems/stresses/decision- making/disagreements. How are the roles distributed? What are your common interests?
d. If there are children living in your home, please provide their birth date, a description of their personalities and attitude towards adoption. If your children are school-aged, please provide a summary of their attendance and behaviors at school.
e. Are there other adult members of your household, including adult children?
5. DESCRIPTION OF HOME AND NEIGHBORHOOD:
a. Describe your home and neighborhood.
b. Why do you think it will be suitable for an adopted child?
6. MOTIVATION TO ADOPT/WHY HAVE YOU CHOSEN THE COUNTRY YOU HAVE?
7. EXPERIENCE WITH CHILDREN, ATTITUDES ABOUT DISCIPLINE
a. Why do you want to adopt? Do you feel adequately prepared to be a parent? Is there any way you might raise a child differently from the way you were raised?
b. What are your feelings about adopting a child of another race? Are you prepared for questions from others? What do you expect to do to give her an appreciation of her background and country of origin?
c. Plans for child care; concept of discipline/showing affection/other?
8. SUPPORT NETWORKS
a. Will your extended family be supportive of the adoption?
b. Friends, neighbors, church or synagogue friends supportive?
9. CHILD PREFERENCE, i.e. age, sex, health
a. Name and relationship of person/persons you have chosen as guardians for our minor child(ren) in case of your death or incapacity? Reason you have chosen them?